I was holding my breath. To scared to breathe.
My mind was throwing thoughts out left, right and centre. Too fast to hold on to.
My heart was in my throat. My stomach held in so tightly it hurt.
"Just breathe, just breathe". I willed myself to take in a breath.
When I start feeling like this I know it is time to retreat, reassess, regroup. Take some time for me. More often that not, my retreat will need to be delayed for several hours or several days. To maintain a calm presence in my parenting, I tell myself to breathe and plan my first opportunity for a time out. Oh, and chocolate is always good!
1 . Take A Mini-Timeout
We've all got to go to the bathroom, right? Chances are that if I am feeling like this I'll be reacting badly, unless I am being mindful and present. My instinct is to fire up so to practice being mindful and present I need to remove myself from my children's presence for a moment, collect myself and calm down. I do this by going to the bathroom and breath in deeply and out slowly, for as long as I am able. Then I can return to the situation and deal with it with love, calmness and control.
2. Take Time For Yourself
When my mind is so full that it is spilling out into my day and affecting my interactions with my children I plan my escape to the sea. I like to drive to a certain beach, park in the carpark that over looks the sea and sit and watch and think. My peace is found by the sea. A friend of mine likes to take the dogs out for a walk along the beach. Another friend works on a visual diary in her spare bedroom.
I make sleep a priority. And if I'm not getting enough at night I try to nap with the kids at rest time and if that doesn't happen, I make it an early night.
4. Wake before the kids
I don't get to do this very often as I have an early riser, but when it does happen it is AMAZING. Just to sit and drink my tea in the quiet of the morning makes a for a happy and relaxed Mama!
5. Be An Organised Mum
I'll be running a series of posts soon on the benefits of being organised and how you can start the organisation process by looking at implementing some tasks and establishing a rhythm.
Looking for ideas on establishing a rhythm/routine, check out our Morning Rhythm, our Afternoon Rhythm or our Evening Rhythm.
6. Get Creative! I have a need to be creative everyday. It nourishes my soul to surround myself with some form of creative outlet. There's my own passion for sewing, papercraft, cross stitching and writing. There's enjoying my teens passion for music. There's watching my toddlers play and build with a variety of household objects and toys. There's beachcombing and nature walks as a family. And sitting with my bestie talking all things craft.
Do you have any tips on how you take time for yourself? How do you maintain a calm presence in your parenting? Please share your ideas!